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Dear John,

I'm sure you'll get plenty of mail after your appearance on Three in a Bed, some (hopefully most!) positive and some ignorant and hateful, so I don't expect a reply because I doubt you'll have time.I'm not gay or male, but I have lived in some of the most prejudiced and most liberal parts of the world and know only a little about the challenges that gay men can face in any community, even in this modern-thinking (supposedly) world.I just wanted to let you know that while your sexually open and expressive establishment might not be to everybody's tastes, I think that what you're doing is fantastic. If at the end of my life, I could look back and know that I'd given even half of the comfort, acceptance and peace of mind that you seem to be giving, I'd be a happy girl.
The fact that you're open about being a sex professional I think is also admirable. I do think that there is a horrible, seedy side to the industry, when young people are being exploited and victimized, but otherwise I don't see any reason for people to judge. Hopefully, by your being so open, a few more people will open their minds a little.Sorry for going on and on, I've had a couple of glasses of wine.Well done, you're lovely and if I were a gay or bi man I would totally come and stay with you.    xo Emily

hi, just wanted to write and let you know , I watched the 3 in a bed tv programme last night and altho I am not a gay male,(or lesbian),I thought I must write to let you know that you and your hotel came across wonderfully.
What a fantastic and unique service you appear to offer your clients! Fair play to you!!!! - I think you should have won!!!!!!!!
Wishing you every success in the future.
Regards
Janice Moxham
P.S. I do not normally write to people but you inspired me!!!!!!

 Well, well, well - just finished watching "3 in a bed" and thoroughly enjoyed it whilst finding it enlightening too. Who's the biggest queen you ask - hmmmmmmmmm. That Andrew..... at least you didn't ask for non allergenic pillows at the last moment - and the teddy.... and the "pose" in the jimjams with the strategically placed duvet - AAAAAAARGH. That, and the attitude and undermining - jeez - he really does deserve himself. Let's not be unkind though - as an old schoolmaster once said of me in a school report "if ignorance is bliss, this boy will be truly happy". As much as I appreciate that sentiment with the underlying humour, Andrew may have to re-evaluate his thought processes methinks. GOOD. The other two were lovely and so warmed to you - what a super place they had too.
JON

I saw your retreat on Three In a Bed and I just wanted to say I think you offer a great retreat and your passion for what you provide is lovely to see. As a woman I sadly won’t be able to enjoy your accommodation or any of your workshops – they looked really interesting. After seeing women go wild at a Chippendales show I can see why you would not want women in a place where men can be clothes optional! ;0)

You handled the criticism levelled at you so well and explained your philosophy very clearly. As a veggie ( vegan really) I was very embarrassed by my “fellow” vegetarian’s attitude to what you are offering to gay men. We still live in far from equal times so it’s great that there are places like yours where people can be themselves without fear of judgement or prejudice and the fact you run it as a not for profit venue is fantastic.  I’ve never sent a congratulatory e-mail to someone I don’t know before but your care for your retreat was so delightful to see I thought you deserved to be praised for it. I wish you all at Hamilton Hall the best for the future and hope that the programme really projects Hamilton Hall into the spotlight as you deserve to be recognised for both your passion and your compassion.

Rebecca

 Well done John, the programme was great. Wasnt sure if you were going to play it up or be very quiet and timid, but you were just yourself and had every right to complain about that Andrew who was clearly just ripping everyone off. We have probably been down at least 30 times between the 2 of us in the last 10 years and spend around 30X£150 - ie given you around £4,500, and I can certainly say that we have always had good value and lets face it 18 nights in his place just doesent come near to what you have offered in all the weekends we have enjoyed. Well you can be sure that everyone saw him as unrealistic and a gready b&b owner- the other couple and yourself & Christian all came out of it well. Lets hope it brings you some well deserved extra business!
Keep it up for the next 10 years and hope to see you soon
Ian & Nick

Hi John, for you to go to the trouble of personal replies when you have been inundated with good wishes like you have, is a testimony to you. Does the "hall" have a facebook group or other ways to keep in touch? I understand that you can not dilute your work, but a lot of straight people do care and whilst not wanting to
block your work, would like to keep in touch/updated. I wasn't going to dignify that bloke by mentioning him but seeing as you have, he's an asshole and I bet his 'phone hasn't begun ringing never mind never stopped! I loved the bit in the programme when Andrew was whinging and you said something like "coffee's on" I watched the programme twice as it was very good, you are in the thoughts and prayers of the sane world and held in their love as you know. I have 2 brothers one like Andrew and one who's gay. I remember the gay one saying about how when you are young and new to the scene you sometimes go home with an old queen for a bed for the night when you are in the city and can't get home. I know that's not what you're about (a flop house) but also that if a young person rang you scared they'd be room and a listening ear. You are there for people no matter what there circumstances and it is that what makes Hamilton Hall special. Amanda xxx

Debz xx

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